As a stay at home mother, I rarely find myself having a full day off. As much as I love constantly being home with the kids, I can’t just call in sick or skip a day. It’s constantly full on and busy and there isn’t much time to just chill and relax. After about three years of sleep deprivation I found myself getting burnt out, exhausted and unmotivated.
(big shout out to all the single working mums! I don’t know how you do it! Amazing! I feel so stupid having any right to complain!)
Anyway, sleep deprivation can really mess with you and after such a long amount of time, I decided to give myself permission to occasionally take break. Sounds ridiculous but I can tell you it has one hundred percent made me a better mother. If I have a break, I feel recharged, motivated, positive, grateful and happy!
Here are a few things I do to give myself a break.
- Daycare – every Wednesday the kids go to daycare, Alllll day! I drop them first thing in the morning and pick them up late in the afternoon. At first I felt major guilt. I thought it was cruel leaving the kids in daycare for eight hours but they absolutely love it! They learn so much and they have created some amazing bonds with their teachers and friends.
So on daycare days, I don’t do a thing in the mum department. I decided to take the whole day off. I do things that make me happy. Shopping, art classes, lunch with friends etc and the one promise I make myself, is to not do any housework or boring things. My cleaner comes once a fortnight on a Wednesday so the house is always spotless on that day! I don’t even cook dinner. I give the kids something basic like “breakfast for dinner” and then I don’t even have to do the dishes! It’s awesome. I’m so grateful I have a husband who doesn’t give me a hard time if I have a lazy day. He doesn’t even notice if the beds aren’t made, or if there are toys everywhere. I always catch up the following day but it’s just so good to not have to worry about the little things.
- Time away – as a helicopter parent this was a really hard one for me. I sometimes take a night away with my mum. We have a nice dinner together, stay in Brisbane in a nice apartment, watch a show and just have some quality time. I also get a full eight hours of sleep so I always feel really recharged afterwards. I also miss the kids and Mike so it makes me appreciate them more.
- Netball – when I was younger, netball was a huge passion of mine. I played for most of my life but when I started adulting, I just stopped! I was fearful of returning after having so much time off in case I hurt myself, but going back was the best thing for me. I now have something to look forward to one night a week and I get to socialise, exercise and recharge.
Even if you can’t manage big nights away or full days without the kids, I really recommend trying to find some ‘me’ time so you can recharge the batteries. Start a sport or hobbie, run a bath and read a positive book, have lunch with a girlfriend or walk around the shops by yourself. There are so many things you could do but most importantly…give yourself permission to take some time for yourself. We are so hard on ourselves sometimes and don’t like to ask for help, but putting ourselves first occasionally, makes us a better mum in the long run.
If you enjoyed reading this post and can relate, I’d love for you to share in the comments, some ways that you take time out for yourselves.
Until next time,