Becoming a new mum is one of the scariest, hardest, most challenging times. I remember when I became a mum a few years ago, I had no clue what to expect. I never felt ‘ready’ and I was a fish out of water.
I remember wanting to learn as much as I could and crammed as much ‘research’ in as possible. Even after becoming a mum, I still kept reading all of the perfect parenting books about how to get your kid to sleep through, what they should be doing, what is best for them…it was endless!
I read the highly recommended Save Our Sleep and did none of what they suggested. All reading that book made me do was feel like a failure and I found myself questioning my parenting beliefs even more than I should have been. Of course that book is widely popular, but for me it just didn’t help. Each to their own of course. I think the next book I tackled was the No Cry Sleep Solution and again all it did was make me feel inadequate and less of a mum for not being strong enough to follow the perfect parenting structure.
I remember when I bought these two books, I was initially so excited because it was going to have all of the answers and my kids would sleep perfectly, achieve all their milestones and be perfect little humans.
Fast forward to a couple of years later and I would never recommend any structured parenting or sleep training books to any new mums. This gig is hard enough and putting more pressure on ourselves to be perfect, is the last thing new mums need. Our babies will develop when they are ready. They will sleep through the night when they are ready and they are only small for a little while.
The two books I am recommending today are real, honest, raw and hilarious. Their authors… the fabulous Em Rusciano and Constance Hall and they are both amazing role models for mothers. Thankfully Facebook is a platform where we can find wonderful humans like Em and Constance. I first saw Em back on Idol years ago but have been following her on Facebook for a while because she always writes entertaining and funny posts and I try to keep things on my newsfeed that are positive and make me feel good. I first came across Constance through a post a friend shared and I feel like she is so relatable to most mums out there. Both these lady legends keep things extremely real and their books don’t disappoint. Em’s is called Try Hard and Constance’s is called Like A Queen! They don’t care if they are judged or laughed at and they are happy to stand out and have a voice for the challenges that many mothers go through and are too scared to discuss. They parent and live their lives the way that is right for them. They are inspiring because they are both confident and honest and don’t hold back when sharing stories of their parenting years and the challenges they have faced.
The reason I love these books is because they make all mums feel that we are doing a good job. We are the first to judge ourselves on how we do life and how we are parenting, but both of these ladies make us feel like we are doing a great job. And they make it sound like it’s ok to have a drink or two! Love that!
I have never read two books more quickly back to back. I just knew they would be awesome because it’s the first time I have actually used a bookmark instead of folding the corners down to save the page. I knew I would want these books in good condition to pass around to all my mum friends and have started doing that already.
Please, if you know of any mums or anyone about to become a mum, buy them these books. They will be something they can read when they aren’t winning or feeling that great! They will be uplifting, entertaining and will definitely make them feel like they are doing ok!
If you know of any mums that could benefit from these books please share or tag them in this post!
Until next time,